This is what I'm thinking, but Alpha males can be control freeks, who are in my opinion are bullies that memick alpha males to cover for their insecurity.DrZoidberg;680490 wrote:I think Alpha males are supposed to be confident? Racism or sexism is signs of insecurity, isn't it? So anybody racist or sexist is hardly an alpha male, right?Shake;680413 wrote:Not even all cis heterosexual males are "alpha male" types. There are times when I'd rather be around women too, and it has nothing to do with my attraction to them. I don't have many close male friends nearby at this point in my life. Some of the ones I do tend to wind up being around are generally good, but moderately sexist and racist at times, and being someone who avoids confrontation I tend to just try to shift the subject or just walk away.I was never able to feel the part of a man and couldn't get the masculine attitudes of the supreme alpha male. It simply felt ridiculous waste of time. I always surrounded myself with girls and women because I felt comfortable.
Anyway, I'm sure I can't imagine what you're going through, but I hope you are able to find some level of peace and comfort in your life. I agree with others about being yourself and also seeking out the help, guidance, and community of others like yourself to help you get by.
To me an alpha male is a man who is calm, confident, listens, pays attention, introspects, uses his power to lift up those around him and has the ability, when necessary, to take control of a situation. Their defining characteristics is discipline and humility.
If you remember right the last great episode of racism started after President Obama took office, but I'm not sure wither most of it was because he was a black man or because our economy was being torn apart. It would seem to me that fear of loosing their income would make some people less open to sharing what resources we have and out of sheer tribalism, those people that these people would see as foreigners would see them as rivals to their own survival.
Man gets very primative when their bellies are empty.[/QUOTE]
Control freakishness is also a sign of insecurity = not alpha males. I don't think the problem is alpha males at all. But men who try to be, but aren't. For example, very muscular men are almost always that big because they are extremely insecure. Almost only insecure guys are motivated and willing to pay the price to get that big. Still we associate it with being an alpha male.
I think you are correct that tolerance correlates with affluence and stability. For example, in each country where the west transitioned from an agrarian economy to an industrial economy it sparked a rise in religious fundamentalism, political extremism and general chauvinism. This demographic shift where all the old traditions and patterns of life don't apply any more is very traumatic for people. So they grab onto simple solutions. We got two world wars out of it. We got communism in Russia, Nazism, evangelical Christianity and the KKK. Once things became stable again these lost appeal.
In the Middle-East they're undergoing the same transition now, with predictable results. Japan had the same. China the same. Africa. It seems to be a universal pattern.
This makes me very worried about global warming. That's another major transition for our world. Sooner or later. It would suck if all that tolerance and social progress goes out the window because of bad planning.