DavidB: Tributes

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Post by Cath B » Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:39 pm

Many thanks Goodchild.

DMB, many thanks for informing Cranmer.

This was something I was wondering how to organise!

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Post by Febble » Sun Mar 02, 2014 12:04 am

[quote=""DMB""]

There are some commentshere.[/quote]

Lots of comments!

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Post by Rie » Sun Mar 02, 2014 1:50 am

I posted so much in the belief that I have that thoughts and feelings felt deeply and thrown out to the Universe will reach a person I care for and who is ill or, I now accept it, dead....

that word seems so heavy and I hate it... but Cath I hope you could get some of what I was feeling and how I cared to him. I am crying now... truly grief stricken.

And to you Cath and all your family my sympathy
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Post by Cath B » Sun Mar 02, 2014 7:52 am

Thanks a lot Rie.

And all of you.

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Post by Cath B » Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:23 am

I'm not sure whether a lnk's been posted to this CEMB page currently refererencing David:-

http://ex-muslim.org.uk/

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Post by Cath B » Sun Mar 02, 2014 7:18 pm

MOD NOTE: A few posts moved here:-

http://www.secularcafe.org/showthread.php?t=29475

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Post by Siddhi » Sun Mar 02, 2014 7:38 pm

Cath B,

I've been away from the Cafe for a few weeks due to a minor illness.

And, so I returned and found that David had left the scene.

Please know how much I admire you for all that you are and have been to David.

I cannot find the words to express my admiration for David.

He was a gift to each one of us.

Siddhi

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Post by Cath B » Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:08 pm

Thanks Siddhi.

I hope you're feeling better now.

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Thank you David B

Post by Dreadnaught » Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:03 pm

I would like to convey to all here how much I appreciated David's writing over at Cranmer's Blog. It was always reassuring to see how he presented his views as measured and calmly in what I can only best describe as the 'thinking man's/woman's atheist'.

The fact that Cranmer himself, made time to mark his passing speaks volumes for the integrity of both men who are polar opposites regarding religion yet managed to exhibit the best of blog etiquette while holding on to their core convictions.

I shall miss David's contributions immensely. My condolences to his family and friends.
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Post by Cath B » Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:09 pm

Thank you Dreadnaught.

David very much appreciated Cranmer's willingness to allow the expression of alternative points of view on his blog.

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Post by Supernaut » Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:34 pm

I didn't know David...but our very few interactions were always pleasant. His humor was refreshing. My condolences.
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Post by Rilx » Mon Mar 03, 2014 9:46 am

You have my condolences, Cath.

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Post by Oolon Colluphid » Mon Mar 03, 2014 12:54 pm

Oh Cath. I couldn't post when I first heard, and was then at a loss for something sensible to say.

Still am, really.

It was an honour to know David, and to meet him the once. He was probably the most genuinely, simply, honestly thoughtful person I've ever known.

And he managed to find out the eating habits of an IIDB Admin.
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Post by Cath B » Mon Mar 03, 2014 3:54 pm

[quote=""Oolon Colluphid""]And he managed to find out the eating habits of an IIDB Admin.[/quote]

:rolling: :rolling: :rolling:

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Post by Cath B » Mon Mar 03, 2014 3:55 pm

Thanks a lot Rilx, Supernaut and Oolon. :)

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Post by Pendaric » Mon Mar 03, 2014 5:04 pm

[quote=""Cath B""]
Oolon Colluphid;527955 wrote:And he managed to find out the eating habits of an IIDB Admin.
:rolling: :rolling: :rolling:[/QUOTE]

Were you at II in 2007 when all that went down Cath?

That was when a lot of people noticed David for the first time given his starring role - and I think the reason he got that was that TOM saw the same attributes in him then that many have spoken of now, of being a wise and gentle listener who nonetheless could cut to the chase.
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Post by Mediancat » Mon Mar 03, 2014 5:05 pm

It's the exchange he had with Michael that had me remembering his reasonableness and calm rationality, honestly. No matter what jokes might have been pulled from that, David's intention was to have a discussion on the issues at hand. Not to take cheap shots.

Rationality, at the height of the Great Unpleasantness, was, as I've said, thin on the ground. He was an exemplar of someone who was trying to cut through the crap without being an asshole about it.

Which made him one of the good guys.

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Post by Cath B » Mon Mar 03, 2014 5:11 pm

[quote=""Pendaric""]
Cath B;527991 wrote:
Oolon Colluphid;527955 wrote:And he managed to find out the eating habits of an IIDB Admin.
:rolling: :rolling: :rolling:
Were you at II in 2007 when all that went down Cath?

That was when a lot of people noticed David for the first time given his starring role - and I think the reason he got that was that TOM saw the same attributes in him then that many have spoken of now, of being a wise and gentle listener who nonetheless could cut to the chase.[/QUOTE]

Oh yes, I remember it well.

David had been urging me to join IIDB for ages but I'd not long done so when it all went badly wrong and I followed David into a nomadic existence till we settled down here.

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Post by crazyfingers » Mon Mar 03, 2014 7:15 pm

I have to honestly say that when I checked FRDB and saw that David had something like 10,000 posts there, I was shocked. I don't even remember him there. Perhaps I was by then trying as best I could to avoid all board drama. Or perhaps I'm blocking that whole meltdown from memory...

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Post by Tacitus » Tue Mar 04, 2014 12:42 am

Sorry to hear of your loss Cath.

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Post by Cath B » Tue Mar 04, 2014 7:27 am

Thanks. :)

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Post by Cath B » Tue Mar 04, 2014 8:46 am

I'm meeting the undertaker again in a couple of hours.

I just looked out of the window. It's high tide on a calm bright morning. Of course the sea will be bitterly cold at the start of March, but I suddendly had a hiraeth for going for a swim as I used to most warm days in my Tenby summer youth and get away from all this.

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Post by DMB » Tue Mar 04, 2014 8:54 am

[quote=""Cath B""]I'm meeting the undertaker again in a couple of hours.

I just looked out of the window. It's high tide on a calm bright morning. Of course the sea will be bitterly cold at the start of March, but I suddendly had a hiraeth for going for a swim as I used to most warm days in my Tenby summer youth and get away from all this.[/quote]

:hug:

You have been and are continuing to be amazing. When you've finished all the organising I expect you'll feel a bit low, but you should feel really satisfied with the way that you've coped. I hope you get lots of support from your family.

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Post by Cath B » Tue Mar 04, 2014 9:00 am

Thanks DMB :hug:

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Post by ruby sparks » Tue Mar 04, 2014 9:30 am

If you've got the time to spare, I say take that swim. :)

Also, I must admit, you do seem rather amazing.

By the way, do you have a half-decent network of friends, or family, in your vicinity?

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