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Old 13 Aug 2017, 08:07 AM   #675679 / #1
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Default Four rituals that may makes you happy

New neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happy | Ladders

I don't know how good they are, but I'll list them anyway.

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1) The Most Important Question To Ask When You Feel Down

Sometimes it doesn’t feel like your brain wants you to be happy. You may feel guilty or shameful. Why?

Believe it or not, guilt and shame activate the brain’s reward center.
This may be a good cure: to ask oneself
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What am I grateful for?

Yeah, gratitude is awesome… but does it really affect your brain at the biological level? Yup.
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2) Label Negative Feelings

You feel awful. Okay, give that awfulness a name. Sad? Anxious? Angry?

Boom. It’s that simple. Sound stupid? Your noggin disagrees.

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Suppressing emotions doesn’t work and can backfire on you.

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But labeling, on the other hand, makes a big difference.
Seems like the Rumpelstiltskin effect: naming something can make one feel better.

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3) Make That Decision

Ever make a decision and then your brain finally feels at rest? That’s no random occurrence.

Brain science shows that making decisions reduces worry and anxiety — as well as helping you solve problems.

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Make a “good enough” decision. Don’t sweat making the absolute 100% best decision. We all know being a perfectionist can be stressful. And brain studies back this up.

Trying to be perfect overwhelms your brain with emotions and makes you feel out of control.
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4) Touch People

No, not indiscriminately; that can get you in a lot of trouble.

But we need to feel love and acceptance from others. When we don’t it’s painful. And I don’t mean “awkward” or “disappointing.” I mean actually painful.
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  • Ask “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps.
  • Label those negative emotions. Give it a name and your brain isn’t so bothered by it.
  • Decide. Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.”
  • Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch.
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Old 14 Aug 2017, 06:45 AM   #675706 / #2
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Can cats be substituted?
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Old 14 Aug 2017, 06:54 PM   #675719 / #3
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Can cats be substituted?
Yes. Yes they can.

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Make a “good enough” decision. Don’t sweat making the absolute 100% best decision. We all know being a perfectionist can be stressful. And brain studies back this up.
Interestingly, I know a few people that I play board games with that are like this. They get into an analysis paralysis syndrome that can really slow a game down (and suck the fun right out of it). They are so hyper competitive that they forget they are doing it for fun.
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Old 16 Aug 2017, 02:51 AM   #675762 / #4
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Number 4 is just stupid. How on Earth is it physically painful not to be touched? What rubbish!

I make it a life rule never to touch anyone unless absolutely essential.
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