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Old 02 May 2012, 07:19 AM   #360695 / #101
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It is a harsh job that has to be done. Their going to the funeral grounds does not help much. There are things to be done at home. Please note that in many communities other than ours, the women go. It is a matter of tradition.
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Old 02 May 2012, 09:52 AM   #360705 / #102
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Do you accept that there may be things done out of tradition that would be better and fairer to all if that tradition was abandoned?
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Old 02 May 2012, 11:49 AM   #360729 / #103
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It is a harsh job that has to be done. Their going to the funeral grounds does not help much. There are things to be done at home. Please note that in many communities other than ours, the women go. It is a matter of tradition.

That just makes it worse. Just who doesn't it help? Have you even thought that there might just be the merest possibility that the women might want to be there to say goodbye as well.....do you even credit women with the ability to think and make their own choices?

What things at home? Cook & clean, etc????

And even you admit that other communities are more enlightened than you.....your "tradition" here, as with so much else you have expressed is repulsive.
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Old 02 May 2012, 12:02 PM   #360737 / #104
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Good-byes can be said anywhere. The room where the body was kept surrounded by a line of turmeric powder and later washed has to be cleaned. Refreshment for people who return from the funeral ground. It is not the women of the house who have to do these things, relatives do. Food is the responsibility of in-laws. Yes, tradition, but flexible. Some women go, but not the one's in close family. To you, of course, all our traditions are wrong, which really does not matter.
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Do you accept that there may be things done out of tradition that would be better and fairer to all if that tradition was abandoned?
There are a few. For example, untouchability where it still exists.
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Old 08 May 2012, 05:05 AM   #362942 / #105
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I had great respect for my brother-in-law and according to Russian tradition one stands in line and waits to kiss the body. I wasn't fully briefed so to the horror of all I planted a loving smacking kiss on his mouth. Made sense to me.
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